Toni Graham

Sleeping with the Pastor: a Testimony of an Abusive Marriage Toni Graham

As a Christian woman, who suffered years of emotional abuse from my preaching spouse, I have discovered that I'm not alone. Millions of Christian women stay in an abusive marriage because they are taught it is a sin to get a divorce. As much as the Lord doesn't like divorce, He does not want us to live in an abusive marriage. You don't have to stay there and suffer in silence, while your husband has an affair, shows severe mood swings, and verbally abuse you, and all this is before he get up the preach to the congregation. We are princess of the King; we deserve the best that our Father has to offer. Jesus came to save us from our sins, but he also came to heal us, to provide for us, be it physically or emotionally. God is still delivering his people from the hands of Pharaoh today. I wanted to let women know that there is someone who understands and who's been there. As I frantically search within the church walls for a woman who would give me the right advice and all I ran up against are women who stayed until their spouse died or they are still in the abusive marriage. The others never had an abusive marriage and didn't know what to say. Whether you stay or go, this book is not to help you make up your mind, but to just share my personal discover of my marriage to a minister, that know matter how I tried to keep it together, fell apart anyway. Be encouraged and seek the Lord's guidance and your life. GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.