George Bissett

Why We Fail at Romantic Relationships George Bissett

Publisher Marketing: This book is NOT about sex. It is about romance - mostly because, without romance, sex can become less than it could/should be. To me, love and sex seem to be separate entities. But that is just my opinion and whatever your opinion is, it is every bit as valid as mine. In the book, there are sections on codependency and counterdependency, written so as to make them more understandable to those readers who may not have studied or researched those behaviors - which are very stressful. In fact, many things that are stressful to us as a result of the behaviors of others can be handled if one is able to detach, a definition of which is: I didn't cause it I can't control it I can't cure it I can't change it - but I can change myself Detaching will put you on the path to no longer suffering as a result of someone else's behavior because you are what your deep driving desire is and as your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny. Or, another way of saying it is, if you don't know where you're going any road will get you there. So, this book is about putting the romance back into intimate relationships so that the sexual part becomes a reward and not a duty or a punishment. Let me explain... "Sexual intercourse can obviously be used for procreation but it can also be used to communicate, to comfort, and - unfortunately - to punish. Same act with different reasons and outcomes. " And that may very well be why so many intimate relationships collapse; they lack romance." Contributor Bio:  Bissett, George George has lived and/or worked in all ten Canadian provinces and three territories, as well as having lived and/or worked in 28 of the 50 states. He had a problem with alcohol but for more than 26 years (since September 9, 1988) he has not used intoxicants of any kind. Achieving sobriety led to his interest in human behavior and, in particular, why we humans do what we do. His interest and work in the field of human behavior eventually lead him to working for an Employee Assistance Program as both a counselor and manager as well as leading and facilitating workshops and seminars. Prior to developing the DYNAMIC DISCOVERY process he was presenting and leading a two day seminar program titled "THE PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT SERIES" that consisted of 4 topics: Intimate Relationships; Guilt; Co-Dependency, and; The Right To Choose. The back and forth interactions with those seminar clients was enthusiastic and instructive, which led him into using a process of self-evaluation and eventually turned his seminars and workshops into participatory group sessions focused on unwanted and wanted behaviors and how to move from the former to the latter. The formal format for the Dynamic Discovery program came about in December, 1995, while he was sorting his notes from 4 years of those two day seminar sessions because he wanted to create a document that could be used by some of his clients who wanted to understand the "hows" and "whys" of the process that had unfolded during those group sessions... from real life situations and the very real people who shared their thoughts and stories with the Group and who allowed him to learn from them and keep some notes on what was happening during those early sessions. Career Path His first career choice was the Royal Canadian Air Force and he lucked into being part of a Para-Rescue unit. Being a Jumper appealed to his sense of adventure and pumped up his esteem because Jumpers were few and far between. However, he will admit to having feelings of superiority because the greatest danger to most Airmen and Airwomen was the possibility of a life-endangering paper cut. He spent the next 25 years as a builder and real estate developer as well as consulting on approximately 3 million square feet of commercial buildings; mostly hotels and casinos.