Derek Gillette

How to Be a Man Derek Gillette

The journey to fatherhood changes the way we look at things. The question, "What does it mean to be a man?" suddenly defines the son you are raising. Who do you want your son to be?



Search for the phrase, "how to be a man" and you will find experts preaching the importance of men's fashion, making money, building fires, and picking up beautiful women. But are these really the qualities that make our sons successful?



As a father of five myself, I realized the need for a guide to see my sons reach maturity. There are too many temptations, too many bad examples set in front of their eyes today. I was sick of giving the lectures, repeating the same "do's" and "don'ts" over and over again, with no lasting change. I knew what I wanted my sons to become, but I didn't know how to help them get there.



It's time to change the stereotype of what it means to be a man.



Imagine raising a son who developed strong, unwavering character. A son who will not be swayed by popular public opinion and peer pressure. Imagine, down the road, seeing your son with his family and watching him treat his wife or girlfriend with love and respect.



This guide goes through over 30 essential character traits in a way that is easy to understand and absorb. The chapters ARE NOT CORNY or CLICHE. This is not your typical advice or how-to book. It goes deeper than superficial, obvious advice.



"How to Be a Man: a Father & Son Guide" is crafted for those with short attention spans and busy schedules. And unlike many books in this category, it is not overtly religious in any way, although it does focus heavily on the values that make up good, strong character.



Trust me, your sons want to learn from you. They need your attention, even if they pretend to hate it. This book gives you talking points to build a real and honest relationship together.



Learn how to tap into your son's core to connect with them on a real level. Then watch them make the choice to discipline themselves and make choices that protect your relationship.



Table of Contents:



1. Be Known as an Honest Person



2. Your Word Must be Worth Something



3. Be Con?dent in your Beliefs, Whatever they are



4. Know What is Important



5. Think About the Future Right Now: Understand the Ripple Effect



6. You are not Responsible for the Happiness of Others



7. Choose Peace Whenever Possible



8. Know When to Walk Away



9. It's Always Better to Ask for Forgiveness than to Demand it from Others



10. Protect your Love; Don't Give it Away Carelessly



11. Avoid Idleness



12. Be Known as Someone who Gives More than he Takes



13. You Are no One's Savior, Don't Even Try



14. It's Hard to Fix a Broken Heart. Best to Avoid



15. Take Every Chance to Celebrate Others



16. Understand the Importance of Time and Place



17. Don't be Afraid to Look Foolish for What you Believe in, but Don't be a Fool for no Reason



18. Don't be Defined by What you Do



19. Life is a Marathon Run on a Circular Track



20. The Man you See in the Mirror is Only Half the Picture



21. Anger is a Powerful Seed that Starts Small, Grows Fast, and Digs its Roots Deep



22. Don't Seek Justice or Revenge



23. Complaining is a Contagious Virus



24. Whenever Possible, Do not be in Debt



25. Know What you Need and be Able to Communicate it



26. Keep your Childlike Innocence for as Long as Possible



27. Be Good at Several Things



28. Remember to Laugh Often



29. Concluding Thoughts on Marriage



30. There's Always One More