Gloria Hamilten

Want a Better Mother-daughter Relationship?: a Short Course to a Deeper, Loving Connection Gloria Hamilten

Publisher Marketing: After a brief introduction of the author and her daughter, this short course shows how two very different people can have a beautiful relationship permanently. Gloria: "It is incredible that, despite our best endeavours we are still so tied to past cultural and familial conditioning. Looking back now, knowing what I know now after decades of self-improvement, there are a lot of things I would do differently." Alpha: "I look back on my childhood and am incredibly thankful for the mother I had. The person my mother is now is even better, and it's been a journey of self- discovery for both of us, as I find my feet as an individual adult, and the relationship that Mum and I have further develops. I've seen Mum work at allowing me the space to grow, and giving me guidance and role-modelling being happy and living her life to the fullest. It's these learnings and growth opportunities that we now want to pass on to other mothers and daughters, because they are so incredibly uplifting." INTRODUCTION As individuals, people are complex so is it any wonder that the relationship between a mother and daughter is very complex and diverse? CHAPTER 1: CHANGE YOURSELF You can never change another person, ever. If you've ever tried to change anything on yourself, you'll know how hard that is so, no wonder it is impossible to change someone else. In any case, no one has the right to try to change anyone else. CHAPTER 2: SHE MADE ME DO IT! IT'S HER FAULT! No one, but, no one can make you do anything without you allowing it. CHAPTER 3: COMMUNICATE Lack of communication is a common challenge with mothers and daughters. It's often because they are so close that they believe that each of them should know how the other one feels without having to be told. What happens as a result is they don't communicate. Or they get short with each other and then speak harshly to each other, in ways they'd never speak to everyone else, which causes hurt feelings that don't go away so easily. CHAPTER 4: DEAL WITH IT AS IT ARISES One of the key principles in sustaining healthy and satisfying relationships is to deal with situations as they arise, not later, but as they arise. Brooding about them, giving each other the cold shoulder, making sarcastic, pointed remarks; none of that is constructive to settling a difference of opinion. CHAPTER 5: EMPATHISE: It's better to be kind than to be right. Simply put, to empathise means putting yourself in the other person's shoes. Empathy widens the lens of your vision. A daughter may have a Narcissistic mother or a mother can have a Narcissistic daughter. This is a form of illness, often referred to as a "closet illness." We look at Narcissism. CHAPTER 6: FORGIVE Forgiveness is an individual act. It differs from reconciliation, which can affect many persons that is, groups. But here we are addressing the mother-daughter relationship. CHAPTER 7: AGREE TO DISAGREE There are situations when we are better off 'letting it go' than disagreeing. We cannot agree with everything that anyone says and does. That is impossible. It would be unrealistic to think otherwise. The important thing is not to take anything personally CHAPTER 8: LONELINESS How a mother can feel lonely in a seemingly happy home. How a daughter can feel lonely in a happy home. CHAPTER 9: THE POWER OF LOVE Love, what is love? We know that love is the most important emotion, the most important value of them all and, we often hear or read that love conquers all. We also look at respect. CONCLUSION Who controls your emotions? The role of Stress and how to reduce self-imposed stress We look at Values, Beliefs and Attitudes. This book is to show you that every situation can be resolved, every relationship breakdown can be improved and fixed, and there are no insurmountable problems as long as we come from a loving place, from our positive ego. Throughout the book there are ACTION STEPS to individualise the content and stra Contributor Bio:  Hamilten, Gloria Gloria Hamilten has 35 plus years experience in education and training, ranging from secondary to tertiary education, to corporate training in Certificate and Diploma business courses. She has written and delivered a variety of Personal and Professional Development courses, bringing her unique approach which is designed to stimulate a desire for life-long learning with enjoyment and permanent transformation. She was born in Austria and, because of the political involvement of one of her parents, was forced to move frequently to other countries till she was almost 7 years old. After migrating to Australia in the 1950s, she had to adjust to the different norms and societal expectations of the time in a new culture. Added to this one of her parents was a pathological Narcissist and tensions and abuse intensified as Gloria discovered different ways of looking at life and then living these consciousness-driven values. The strategies shared in this book are based on principles to develop ethical and compassion-based self-confidence and self-esteem and to engender in each person the knowing that we are all responsible for ourselves and to help each other. Her passion, enthusiasm and love of people have lead to great success in assisting all to discover who they truly are, what they want to achieve, and giving them to tools to do just that.