Rev T Jerome Overbeck Ph D

Hindsight: Wisdom from Couples Who Have Prepared a Wedding and Lived a Marriage Rev T Jerome Overbeck Ph D

Publisher Marketing: People who have prepared a wedding and actually lived a marriage offered these reflections. As one who accompanied many in these areas over the last thirty-five years, patterns emerge worth further consideration. For example, no couple exactly mirrors another. Even the husband and wife within the same marriage who experienced the same wedding do not always see and understand the same experience the same way. By comparison and contrast we can gain insight into aspects of our unique experience. We can identify qualities worth developing or diminishing. We can examine presuppositions and expectations and foregone conclusions which warrant reconsideration and, perhaps, modification. We can learn perspectives and strategies which others found helpful in their situation and "try them on for size." Also, though it may not fit exactly, someone else's reflection may trigger a little different insight into the dynamics of your relationship. Almost every single contributor to this book articulated their surprise at the helpfulness of their reflecting and articulating their thoughts for themselves. Offering reflections upon their experience enabled them to identify and to put words on the dynamics present in their relationship which helped or hurt over time. While many of the issues and concerns surfaced during their wedding weekend and married life, often they remained just below the radar of consciousness until they reflected upon them for someone else to understand, including their spouse.