Krystle Laughter

Love Yourself Again Krystle Laughter

Healthy relationships start with having a healthy relationship with yourself. If you don't know your worth and value, you'll tolerate people who don't love or value you. Toxic relationships occur when we lack the necessary standards and boundaries to keep us safe. They are what protect us from toxic people. They help us articulate our needs, and they teach others how we want to be treated. If you're tired of toxic relationships, whether dating, married, or single, this book is for you. In Love Yourself Again, you'll learn how to: Recognize & Break "The Chaos Cycle"Identify Toxic People & RelationshipsChoose People Who Choose YouCreate Standards & Set Healthy BoundariesCommunicate Your Boundaries Using R. O. A. RLove Yourself Using the Four Pillars of Self-Love
THE CHAOS CYCLE

The Happy Stage
At this stage, things are going well. You have genuinely happy times and are creating good memories. There's no fighting, and you're getting along. It feels like it did in the beginning, and things look like they are getting better. You get excited because it reminds you of how it used to be. You think your pleas have finally been heard, and things will be better now.

The Conflict Stage
In this stage, the toxic person intentionally does something to push your buttons and start arguments. The toxic person's goal is to get you irritated and emotionally agitated. They'll press and provoke you until you react; this eventually happens because you're human and because they've learned exactly what buttons to push. It's also emotional abuse! You see, when you're emotionally distraught, you don't respond; you react. A response is a well-thought-out, calculated, and intentional action. A reaction is an impulsive decision made with little or no thought of the outcome, and it puts you in a very vulnerable position. Reacting to a toxic person's behavior is a trap!

The Convincing Stage
Once you've responded to their toxic behavior, they will criticize you for the way you responded. Their agenda is to make you feel ashamed and guilty for the way you responded to them. The goal is to get the focus off them and on to you. If they can get you to blame yourself for their behavior, then they know they can manipulate you. No matter what they do, it will always be your fault. This behavior is both intentional and insidious.

The Reconciliation Stage
In this stage, the toxic person plays the victim by claiming to be deeply affected by your reaction to them, never taking into account their behavior. They insist that you're the sole cause of the problem and therefore must be the one to change. You feel conflicted because you know you didn't do anything wrong, but their act is so convincing that you still feel guilty. You decide to be the bigger person and apologize to appease them and restore peace to the relationship. By apologizing, you hope to forget what happened and move forward. Your apology only fuels the toxic person because now they know that they can manipulate you. Manipulation equals control.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Krystle Laughter is an author, mentor, speaker, and certified life coach. She is the mother of seven and creator of Krystle Laughter Academy, an online school for women to heal, learn and grow. Her goal is to empower and educate women about the life-changing power of self-love. Krystle has triumphed to become the woman she is today, overcoming homelessness and domestic violence. She has written a plethora of books, including The Love Yourself Series and He Doesn't Love You If. She also helps people write and publish their own books. Follow her on social media to learn more.