Hope R Clark

Master The Meltdown Hope R Clark

"We were now 6 minutes late. The pressure had been building. The weight of a big decision, the lack of task completion, the overwhelm, the deadline, the irritation of the perception of silly arguments... the hot-mess-rediculousness of it all!!I lost my cool. "Get. In. The car. NOW!" I said with my fiercest face. They begrudgingly climbed in. (Because they were nearing their own building blow up and meltdowns.) I threw the car in reverse and began my tirade with a raised voice..."I can NOT believe you all! This is REDICU...."And then it hit me. I recognized the sentence I had just uttered. It was Shame. I felt ashamed of myself and I was deflecting it by shaming them. I was ashamed because I was feeling overwhelmed and not enough. I was believing that I didn't have enough time/help/resources/whatever. I was hustling. Trying. Striving. I identified it in a millisecond of recognition. And so, I paused... and pressed the brake. I must change this now. The car came to an abrupt halt at the bottom of the driveway. The girls were silent. I threw it in park."Girls. I need a minute." Time was of the essence, we were now MORE late, and it was blazing hot outside. But this had to be handled now, or I was about to go ballistic on them...."Hot mess moments. Blow up and melt downs. We have all had a temper tantrum before. You know... those moments when your emotions seem to get the best of you. But what if you understood a little more about why it was happening? What if you could teach yourself three simple steps for any situation that would turn a hot mess moment into a chill experience? What if learning those three steps gave you a better understanding of yourself and those around you? Take a few moments and learn about a simple tool, backed by big research, that could make an immediate change in how you experience your day, and how others experience you.