Nwamaka Onyekachi

He Wasn't My Husband - Making Sense Of Those Relationships That Didn't Lead To Marriage Nwamaka Onyekachi

We hide our stories when we feel exposed or ashamed, or when we convince ourselves that we have to be perfect. Newsflash: Perfect is out. What's in? Honest self-expression. Allowing ourselves to share emotions. To be seen. To feel vulnerable. To stay open to others and to ourselves. He Wasn't My Husband is a self-help memoir that will challenge your perception about your past relationships that didn't lead to marriage. In this self-help/memoir hybrid, Nwamaka shares her very personal and intimate stories which chronicle her experience of numerous relationships and their long-term effect on her life. The book is broken into four sections. In part one, she shares her childhood stories - delving into the state of her heart that came through the examining events from her young age - from the perspective of an adult. In part two, she recounts her journey of falling in love with each guy and her lack of personal boundaries and habit to see only the good in possible partners, to finally finding herself again. In Part three, she offers the reader the opportunity to start their own process of self-discovery and healing through a series of thought-provoking paragraphs wrapped with question of "Are you still bleeding?" Ultimately, Nwamaka asserts the importance of understanding oneself - self-awareness. She stresses reader's responsibility to uncover the truth behind hurts as a way of finding lessons and forgiveness and peace and to finally end patterns that may have festered for years.