Mohosho Pofane

Getting Played Mohosho Pofane

Love is a beautiful thing. It's a risk that most of us take over and over again with the hope of finding the perfect partner with whom we're willing to spend the rest of our lives with. Someone who will make the love journey worthwhile. While we're searching, we end up in toxic situations, being played or ghosted, as a result end up looking at the whole notion of love differently. Some people give in to the cruelty and play the game too, while others keep hoping for a good partner on try over and over again. It's often said that the world does not reward those who play by the rules (which is arguably true), so wouldn't it be great if we knew the difference between people who come to us to play and those who come with genuinely good intentions? We all know the feeling of being played in dating. You were misled by someone who seemed to be into you. There were no warning signs that someone was about to flip the script but just as you were letting your guard down and starting to get excited about the promise of a long term relationship, the person you were dating totally flakes. They pull away. They dump you. They ghost you. At the end of the day leaving you feeling like a fool for believing in something that clearly was not real. So how can we avoid getting played or made to feel like a fool in dating? First understand what it means when someone plays you. Essentially they have tricked you into giving up something that you would normally never give up unless you were guaranteed to get something in turn. This could be sexy time, money, time, or intimacy. But a player makes you believe in the promise of a return on your investment. They make you feel like you can trust them, when in fact they are completely untrustworthy. This book is a self help on how to not get played in dating. It has provided many people with dating skills that helped them get better in dating, to sustain their relationships and to be able to identify potential long term relationships. The author of this book, Mohosho Pofane, has experience helping people get better at dating and to avoid meaningless relationships by providing support in blogs, through radio and social media. Most of his followers inspired this book to help all the other people he could not reach. The author of Getting Played studied LLB and BA. Dev. Studies & English language at the National University of Lesotho. A small landlocked country in southern Africa which is completely surrounded by South Africa. His experience is motivated by the fact that what is called dating in the western context may mean a totally different thing in the African context. Our social lives and culture are completely different and dating forms part of those differences. As a result, this book provides dating tips on how to not get played while looking at dating from both the Western and African context to include people from all walks of life and different backgrounds. People who read this book have reported succes in finding long term relationships and in general dating. Enjoy!