Henry Blair

Lovism Henry Blair

By regarding women and men as opponents, feminism has adopted separatism, to which Men's groups responded with their own separatism. Extremists in both sexes thus lead to a divorce between the sexes. However, women and men are not seeking a conflict, but aspire for a mutual conversation with shared understanding and empathy. This is what Lovism is: A shared philosophy of equality for both sexes. Love being one of the most basic of all human needs, this book is an invitation and an urgent call, to start talking.

What really happened in Me Too? The Gender Church, the Trauma Culture, the Feminized Macho, are only a few of the terms revealed in Lovism, a first of its kind inspection of the processes that Me Too has fostered, amounting to the deviation of feminism from the wishes and dreams of ordinary women, while excluding most men and even most women from all discussions about the relations between them. Instead of the current hostility and competitive antagonism that separatist extremists have caused, this book offers a shared, mutual conversation for both women and men, in which they could talk with each other about each other, not under intimidation, but in the language of love.

The many women who wanted to be treated equally but could not relate to the feminist aggressiveness and self-victimization, could find in Lovism the term they were looking for to express their views; gents could finally join women in saying, "I am a Lovist".

"I grew up inside my head. Within my head the world looked differently, women were the strong ones, men were the idiots. I don't know, this is what I concluded from TV and reality. A man woos the woman, the woman is the lioness who chooses. I didn't understand the term Patriarchy. I regarded the feminist struggle as something I admire and I felt I have to do anything for women, they are goddesses. They are the most important thing, the smartest thing, I as a man was the stupid and there's no way I will reach their level. I hated the position "a man." And most of all, I was afraid, afraid of women... Fear of women was one of the first causes that started in me the depression... I was willing to hurt myself just so that a lady won't be offended, I was willing to do for them anything... My question, and not as a man who tries to mansplain... is how this whole abandoned area is transformed, to something more organized, from which it is possible to learn a little more about the relations, feelings, consideration, and sex too" (A Facebook post published by a young man on August, 2019)

My mother used to sing to me, 'My little girl, don't walk by yourself', and it was such fun walking by myself. The injury was in a much closer place. I don't know what to think about this article. Most of all, I feel sorry for us women, for having nothing more practical to do other than shouting all day that this is not a proper way to approach us and how the world would be better off without men (who are beloved and sweeter than sweet in my eyes). To do - to pass laws, to educate (children and adults alike, but without self-victimization), to go back a little to a more restraint approach on the news, to learn what intimacy is, to respect a person - any person, and especially opening up the conversation and not closing it down by saying we don't need men in the world... I'm sorry but this is my opinion, with love" (A comment by an anonymous woman under the name "Only love can prevail," August 2020)

Most men and most women yearn to have the conversation, to talk - to understand, and to disclose. The stage is yours. Please start talking.