Gene Vatter

Compelled to Love Gene Vatter

Only those who have been through the trauma of narcissistic abuse know the depth and range of painful emotions that result from being compelled to love, then devalued and discarded by a covert narcissist/emotional manipulator. Healing from the relationship takes time, therapy and hard work, but it also can be a period of spiritual growth and better understanding of God and his unconditional love for you. Compelled to Love was written especially for Christians and seekers recovering from the emotional and psychological abuse endemic to the relationship with an emotional manipulator/covert narcissist. Author Gene Vätter draws upon his personal abuse and healing experiences to help others find hope as they forge a new life without the narcissist. Topics such as lies, hopelessness, trust, forgiveness, no contact, boundaries, loyalty, longing and waiting will resonate with any reader who was "compelled to love" by an emotional manipulator. Vatter identifies the source of the abuse as the "Father of Lies" and shows how Satan uses narcissists to steal the kind of love that belongs to Jesus Christ alone, who also compels us to love. Rich in metaphors and compassion, the book also opens readers' hearts to understand how the little god or narcissist in each of us can diminish the relationship we have with Jesus and God. Vatter identifies narcissism as the sin of our times and one that is destroying hearts as well as the planet and society. This small, very readable book provides practical advice on getting honest with ourselves to help you grow spiritually and personally throughout your time of recovery from narcissistic abuse.