Maryrose Chinwe Mbanefo

Creating a Happy Home Maryrose Chinwe Mbanefo

Creating a Happy Home

Creating a Happy home is all about joining human beings together in a relationship, where each of the individuals lives and feels satisfied, contented, joyful; finds refuge, safety, assistance (care, rest attention and help). An ideal happy home needs to be established and built for better living. Happiness and success in life depend on the marriage and the home, 'behind every successful man there is a woman'. The state of your marriage and your home affects your life and the society at large.


Marriage is the vocation that builds the home. There is a miracle that takes place when a man and a woman come together in holy matrimony; which is a union of the two hearts and lives. It is a game of understanding that will yield a strong and permanent relationship. This relationship is a lifetime commitment to oneness both in good and bad times. The couple shares everything together as one, they work towards the marriage as a lifetime project and it must be built on Christ for it to stand. There can be no happiness in the home without daily prayers, a meditation on the word of God that keeps you in union with him. The way the choice of partner is made and what transpired during the courtship period is very important in determining the state of the home.


The families as instituted by Christ are meant to nurture all the Christian virtues, which can only be achieved through the new birth. Unity, Mutual love, and Permanence are the essential properties of marriage that are not just attained. A prize must be paid in other to get them and experience happiness in marriage. This prize is not measured; it is consisting of discipline, and attitude, loyalties and the ability to blend each other's personalities harmoniously. However, marriage is what you make it.


Marriage is meant to be the man's happiness but the devil fights it with suffering, problems and hardship which have become part and parcel of any marriage and they pose a lot of challenges to the couples. To follow Jesus, we must be prepared to accept and face our challenges as facts of life. We need to know that wine and music can make you happy but a happy marriage is even better (Sir. 40:20).


A lot of impediments or hindrances to building a happy home were identified; and the couple should investigate, discovered and removed these impediments during courtship before the marriage is contracted. The qualities of an ideal husband/wife are identified with the expectations from them. The roles/duties of each member of the family were identified and the responsibilities of the parents to their children were clearly explained; the steps towards building and managing a happy home and the sins against married life were stated.


The book attempts to make the married and singles conscious, understand, and appreciate the meaning of Christian marriage, purpose and its fundamental characteristics, as God's given vocation. There is also an attempt to salvage troubled marriages through the practice of Christian virtues and making couples realize that the ups and downs in marriage are part and parcel of it. The author demonstrated a depth of research and frank analysis of marriage to enable anyone have enriching insight of its physical, psychological, moral, spiritual and pastoral nature. It calls for total examination of ones married life and family setting: whether one is really playing his/her role as a wife, husband, father or mother in the home.


The teachings are for your happiness, success in life and salvation in the vocation of marriage. The book is recommended for priests, pastors of souls, parents and prospective spouses, marriage counselors; and in fact, a must-read and use the material for all marriage course in all churches.